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236如果日后必求人且需答谢还不如先施惠于人（第1页）

236．如果日后必求人且需答谢，还不如先施惠于人

如果日后必求人且需答谢，还不如先施惠于人。这是一个精明的策略。虽然别人还无资格接受，但是你却提前施惠，这说明你乐于助人。这样，预先施惠便有了两大优势：你的施惠干脆利落，让受惠者更加感激。同一件礼物，本只是日后对他的酬谢，却变成了事先的施惠。这是变换人情的精明策略：日后你有求于人，却变成了别人因为现在受惠而在日后回报你。但是，这种策略只对知恩图报之人有效。对卑鄙小人来说，提前的谢礼只是羁绊，而不是鞭策。

236．Makeanobligationbeforehandofwhatwouldhavetobearewardafterwards

Makeanobligationbeforehandofwhatwouldhavetobearewardafterwards。Thisisastrokeofsubtlepolicy;tograntfavoursbeforetheyaredeservedisaproofofbeingobliging。Favoursthusgrantedbeforehandhavetwogreatadvantages:thepromptnessofthegiftobligestherecipientthemorestrongly;andthesamegiftwhichwouldafterwardsbemerelyarewardisbeforehandanobligation。Thisisasubtlemeansoftransformingobligations，sincethatwhichwouldhaveforcedthesuperiortorewardischangedintoonethatobligesthemtosatisfytheobligation。Butthisisonlysuitableformenwhohavethefeelingofobligation，sincewithmenoflowerstampthehonorariumpaidbeforehandactsratherasabitthanasaspur。