213.懂得如何反驳
懂得如何反驳。这是查明事情真相的主要方法——让别人尴尬,自己却不尴尬。这就像夹人手指一样,可刺激别人冲动,然后获知真相。你的些许怀疑,可作为他人吐露秘密的催化剂。这是一把钥匙,能打开他人紧锁的心。如果方法巧妙,能窥视到他的想法,考验他的意志。对别人神秘的话语狡猾地表现出不屑,可以掏出他隐藏最深的秘密;用甜美的诱饵把别人的秘密从心中引至嘴里,滑落舌尖,掉进你精心编织的欺骗之网里。你不表现得那么关心,别人就不会那么在意,从而能够吐露真言,不然,其内心就会深藏不露。假装有所怀疑是最灵巧的撬锁工具,能让你如愿以偿。在知识学习上,学生反驳老师也是精明的策略,这样老师就会尽力把道理讲得更透彻、更具说服力,因此适当的反驳可使教学更加完善。
213.Knowhowtocontradict
Knowhowtocontradict。Achiefmeansoffindingthingsout-toembarrassotherswithoutbeingembarrassed。Thetruethumbscrew,itbringsthepassionsintoplay。Tepidincredulityactsasanemeticonsecrets。Itisthekeytoalocked-upbreast,andwithgreatsubtletymakesadoubletrialofbothmindandwill。Aslydepreciationofanother'smysteriouswordscentsouttheprofoundestsecrets;somesweetbaitbringsthemintothemouthtilltheyfallfromthetongueandarecaughtinthenetofastutedeceit。Byreservingyourattentiontheotherbecomeslessattentive,andletshisthoughtsappearwhileotherwisehisheartwereinscrutable。Anaffecteddoubtisthesubtlestpicklockthatcuriositycanusetofindoutwhatitwantstoknow。Alsoinlearningitisasubtleplanofthepupiltocontradictthemaster,whothereupontakespainstoexplainthetruthmorethoroughlyandwithmoreforce,sothatamoderatecontradictionproducescompleteinstruction。